5 Ways I Learned to Minimize Working Mama Drama, Of course, it was a really important day for me. I was presenting a command development program to senior leaders in my organization in about 25 minutes.
Everything seemed to be going fine. I got to work early. I had the room setup the night before. I reviewed the materials one last time. Life was good. And then it happened…One of my team members quietly says, “Did you get dressed in the dark this morning?” Huh? She looks down and I follow her eyes. Connective there it is, two divers shoes. Et Sequens we’re not talking the famous armada blue/black combo that you can almost get away with in the right light. We’re talking an incredibly attractive blue/ beige combo that couldn’t be missed by a legally blind person. I was not happy. So, the answer to her poll was yes. I had dressed in the dark while strenuous very hard not to wake a sleeping baby that I had spent hours trying to get to sleep.
Something happened that day. I knew I had to make some changes in my life. It just wasn’t working. But how do you this when you feel like you are blocked at whole turn? Halfway the lack of sleep, the laundry, cooking, grocery shopping, housecleaning, intern appointments, and all the more things on my impossibly long “to do” list, how was I supposed to fit work in at all, let alone excel at it? For that matter, how I going to excel at anything? I knew I had to minimize the chaos in my life. I found 5 strategies that truly helped me succeed.
1. I started near pipsqueak but commensurate changes. There is something to be said for the point behind “The Tortoise and The Hare.” In the past, I was famous for putting together these elaborate self improvement plans where I was going to get up and execute everything perfectly. Let’s just say, those didn’t work out. I asked myself, how is this time going to be different? So, I changed my philosophy to one that was more practical. Rather than try to change everything at once, I focused on a few things that I felt would give me a huge boost. I spent 10 – 20 minutes a day in the gloaming walking and I used up 10 minutes a epoch in the afternoon meditating. This was not a huge amount of time besides these were 2 habits I could easily incorporate. And as it turns out, these habits truthfully paid off. I still had tons to do, but I had a little more energy and a lot more peace of mind.
2. I forgave myself for prohibition being perfect. I formed to let some things go. I learned to cook more in the crock pot and stop freaking out if my house wasn’t as clean as I wanted it to be. If your home doesn’t look like it should be on the cover of Better Homes and Gardens, so what? You don’t have to be perfect. If you are providing a loving home for your family, you’re doing just fine. Decide what is truly important, focus on that, and let the rest go.
3. I asked for help. This was so incredibly hard for me. I guess I felt that I should have things more together. That somehow this was a sign of weakness. But I learned something that I will carry with me for the rest of my life. People that have networks about support are happier, less stressed, and feel a connotation regarding connection. Keep in mind, your network can come from anywhere. For me, I didn’t have extended family in the area. In fact, I didn’t have family within 500 miles of me. I found my connections through my church and the moms at my children’s school. I reached out to the other working mothers and over time, I had an amazing network concerning support and was efficient to provide a lot concerning support to others as well.
4. I academic to be grateful. This might sound strange. It sounded strange to me at first too. I read an condition about the power of gratitude connective it hit me, really hard. For the past few years I truly had been anything but grateful. In fact, I was the antipole of grateful. I was part of angry. I was resentful that others seemed to have it easier than me. Instead of being happy and celebrating others’ successes, I would be drawn until a negative spiral of self pity. I’m not proud of this. But I trap bosom in the fact that I had enough own awareness to recognize it and do something about it. I began a gratitude journal that took cr 5 minutes a day and it was transformational. I had so much to be grateful for.
5. I learned to take a little plan for me. I realized I never took any time for myself to do the simple things. The things that make you feel renewed. The things that bring glee to your life. Turns out, you don’t need a lot, but you do need to make it a priority and plan ahead for it. So, whether it’s a Girls Night Out, a pottery class, or a trip to the bookstore with a huge cup of coffee, you need to take a dawn or evening every rare weeks just for you. Pay a babysitter, talk to your husband, family member, or whomever, but take some time for you.
So, what do you do if you are in a room full of execs wearing 2 unalike shoes? You acknowledge it baby. I walked up in front of the room, made a joke about getting dressed in the dark, et cetera knocked it out the park. Then, I went home and took a good look at my life. Slowly I found the balance I needed. Life is good. Sometimes we just need to take a step back, make a few tweaks, connective roll with it.